To see and hear

what is there

instead of what should be

   was or will be

 

To say what one feels and thinks

instead of what one should

 

To feel what one feels

instead of what one ought

 

To ask for what one wants

instead of always waiting for permission

 

To take risks

in one's own behalf

instead of chosing to be ‘only' secure

and not rocking the boat

 

from Virginia Satir “Making contact”